My meaning of happiness might, and most often will be, different from yours. Same is true for any two people living on any part of this planet. Happiness is the meaning we attach to circumstances around us. There are no universal definitions and there shouldn’t be any. Well, if there is anything common about yours and mine sense of happiness, it has to do something with the expression of joy when we feel happy. Though the expressions may vary from ubiquitous laughter to contented silence it is not very difficult to figure of happy people around us. Happiness spills very easily.
What if the feeling of being happy is only a temporary mental state? What if our happiness is derived from things that won’t matter beyond few hours or days? What if we start feeling happy because of our actions and somebody’s reactions that have little meaning outside our own mind? Sounds a bit funny and somewhat contradictory too right? Because I just said that the source of your joy can be anything under the sun. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ form of happiness! Though this is true there is certainly some difference between natural and synthetic happiness. ‘Synthetic Happiness’ too sounds a little far fetched an idea. Let me try and explain my views about it. Imagine texting to a friend on WhatsApp or commenting on a friend’s post on facebook. Do you get excited if you get the desired reply? If the answer is affirmative, perhaps you have found your source of Synthetic Happiness! Do you let go a small situation like being ignored for a casual text message or not being ‘liked’ on a friendly posts? Or do you end-up judging that other person whom you call your friend? If our minds don’t accept people as they are and as they want to be we continue to battle with the pursuit of Synthetic Happiness. This electronic form of excitement and disappointment makes us less human than what we would have been without all the socialization and connectedness.
Live little moments of life by enjoying ‘sharing’ something without expectations of ‘likes’ or ‘replies’. Ofcourse sometimes some questions may go unanswered but then as they say, if you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they are yours; if they don’t, they never were. Carl Jung, a renowned psychiatrist and psychotherapist says, “Those who look outside dream. Those who look within awaken.”
Wish you a Happy New Year!