Happiness is about enjoying the journey in such a way that you tend to forget how far you are from reaching your desired destination. It is more and more about liking the process, loving the process. It is less and less about results. Joy of living this journey is far more than joy of reaching where you want to reach.
I saw little children playing a game in the garden. Kids were so engrossed in playing the game that none of them ever stopped to reflect upon his/her victory or loss. The flow kept them occupied and excited. End result did not bother them.
This child-like intensity of enjoying the process gets lost as we grow in emotions and aspirations. We get entangled in the battle of wins and losses. We forget how to enjoy the flow. No matter how hard we try, our mind fills with anxiety of failure. In short we live less, laugh lesser and worry a lot.
I know there is an argument that wise men might put forward. It goes like this, “My job, my work, my family affairs, my comforts are not a child’s play. How can I forget the outcomes. They decide the way I lead my life.” This is where lies the whole problem. We think ignoring outcomes leads to failures. But this is not true. Losing a game is not losing is not losing this wonderful life. But losing to enjoy the game is certainly losing substantial substance of life. If you start liking what you do, you shall start accepting whatever happens as a result of what you have done.
Those who understand this simple principle might lose on several fronts in ‘life’ but they always win over many others in ‘living’. Those who fail to learn it often win life but lose living.
As Jonathan Ross once said, “It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how many people remember you when you die”