In the first part of Kung Fu Panda movie series, Master Oogway tells Shifu, “You will never fulfill your destiny until you let go of the illusion of control.”
This line just coming back to me, over and over again. The illusion of control! What a powerful thought. What all can we control? And how much of all that we think we can control, can we control? Are we in control of our thoughts at all?
Most humans feel a subtle sense of joy when they see things happening as desired by them. Also often many of us go through a gripping sense of anxiety when we anticipate things to go out of our control. Are we wired to ‘control’? Do we need a constant realization of ‘being in control’ for every action we take or plan to take?
Trying to control the consequences of our actions is like trying to change the shape of water after it has been poured into a glass. It will take the shape of that glass. But when we decide to reject this fact and apply our mental energies to changing this shape, it definitely ends up hurting us. We feel dejected because in the process of control we either lose the water or we lose the glass itself.
Letting things happen as they does not mean indecisive inaction. It is not about being lackadaisical or lazy. It is also not about being undetermined. To be aware and to let go of is a difficult task for our minds. When we are aware of the possible consequences of your action and yet you choose not to chase the best possible outcome, we cannot be at ease. We tend to feel that we must ensure that we get the best result because we and only we can make it come through. But there could be several other factors which our cognitive abilities don’t help us to comprehend. Most of us don’t have the courage to accept these unforeseeable currents which can seize the control of events from us.
What we end-up controlling is not the outcome but the very process of getting that outcome. We must never forget that we are running on a surface which itself is running. We must never forget that we are just a cog in the wheel.
To sum-up the point I would like to quote Osho who once said, “Be. Don’t try to become.”